Heroin Addiction: Cocaine Facts

Question: My friend/boyfriend is a heroin addiction?

(Posted by: NOLA on 2009-12-01 19:29:17)

I've know this guy for about 2- 3 years now. As soon as i met him i had a little thing i liked who he was and how relaxed he was. Soon after he started acting weird and i cut off most contact with him because i found out he was using heroin. I heard horrible things about him for about 6 months about how bad of a junkie he was. Then he went to Florida for about a year and recently just came back he got a hold of me and we started talking again, and i started really liking him again. We've been spending a lot of time together lately and we're dating but I've been noticing he's been acting really strange lately. i know hes messed up, he'll go away for about 15 Min's at the time and come back speech slurred, he'll sit down and start nodding and falling asleep. I've noticed some track- marks. I want to confront him, because i cant stand the stupid BS. But i also really care about him and just don't want to leave him. I want to help even though i know he has to want it first. So my question is should i confront him? Will he overreact? How should i do it? Sorry about the novel! lol Even if i do leave him i still want to confront him i don't know how do go about doing it. that's what i need help with. He also told me he had quit while he was in Florida

Posted by: DevilsLexicon on 2009-12-01, 19:41:05

Junkies are bad news and almost NEVER recover. That's why almost all people decide that any drug is ok except shooting up and heroin. Look into your own eyes and decide do you really want 2 peoples lives destroyed by heroin? "Look in the mirror and see your own eyes the person that loves you is watching you cry. " If you love somebody set them free....in this case you will free yourself. CONFRONT HIM!!!!??? BABE YOUR DREAMING!

Posted by: Gem on 2009-12-01, 19:38:21

First of all, a junkie or drug addict has to admit to himself/ herself that they are indeed an addict and need help. If they dont acknowledge that, the you are wasting your time on them. Where is his mother and father? These are the people that should be involved in his drug life, doing everything possible to help him get sober. People who do drugs, freak out, over react and deny,deny, deny ........everything! There is no use in hanging out with negative people, they only drag you down and consume you with worry. GET OUT NOW and let him find his way! Sorry to sound so blunt and cold, but that is the reality of the drug user.

Posted by: Patrick C on 2009-12-01, 19:41:36

I'd hate to say it, but here is what needs to happen and you'll be stronger for it. Tell him to choose either you or the heroine. If he wants you then that will give him a reason to get help and quit, he will also be stronger for this. Or he chooses heroine, and at that point you NEED to move on. That means no contact what so ever. And yes, it is a medical condition to be addicted to heroin, however, he would not be in this situation if he didn't start in the first place. If he agrees to quit or at least attempt, then give him a chance because he is choosing you over a powerfully addicting drug.

Posted by: Elizabeth on 2009-12-01, 19:41:51

Addiction is a mean beast. You should get a court order (go with a friend or something) and get him into the hospital. He will probably hate you (or maybe like you more), but it's the only thing that will help Talking to an addict really doesn't work, because addiction is very strong. Good luck

Posted by: in PUNK we trust on 2009-12-01, 19:41:59

If he's addicted to heroin, he has a medical condition. It's no longer a personal choice. Chances are, he won't like what you have to say to him. When both of you are calm, like when you're sitting on the couch watching tv together or something, bring it up. Explain that you're worried about him and you think he could benefit from treatment. Do not blame. Do not judge. Do not bad-mouh. Do not tell him it's bullshit. Try to stay calm. Try not to get pulled into a fight (verbally or physically). You might want to have a close friend there that both you and your boyfriend trust. Sometimes having a third party present can help. It is important that you do not leave him, even if you don't like what he's doing. Most of the time, someone who is addicted to a drug like heroin want to stop, but they can't. If you leave him, things can get real nasty, real quick. Gently ask him to talk to you. Try to understand the world from his eyes. It will be easier for both of you if you can work together and you are both cooperative. You will also have a better chanc eof him listening to you if you come across as compassionate, not accusatory. *EDIT Don't listen to the people saying to stop talking to him or to call the police. He's still a person and still deserves to be treated with respect. If you can't help him, find someone who can.

Posted by: JeevelPorse on 2009-12-01, 19:42:38

This is a touchy situation. I would first suggest that you confront him about his addiction. Then if all goes well introduce him to a local program that will help him with his addiction. However, there is a possibility that he could react negatively to this accusation. I suggest you take time to think how you will confront him about this as it could be a touchy topic. Make sure you tell him that you're only doing this because you care about him. This addiction is something that could very easily ruin his life. If all else fails, I suggest you contact help for him even without his consent. He may get angry with you, but when he's clean he will realize why you did it. I am sorry you are in this situation and I hope it all turns out positively for you. Best of luck.

Posted by: i2ayne on 2009-12-01, 19:42:49

Tell him your are concerned because you've noticed his behavior is odd and things you've noticed that make you suspect he is using drugs. Let him know you care about him and that you really want to help him get better. Try to get friends and family involved as well. If he is to get better he needs to admit that he has a problem and realize that his drug use is causing him problems in his life. The best thing for him is drug rehab program and eventually Narcotics Anonymous.

Posted by: Yeh on 2009-12-01, 19:42:53

Current and former heroin addicts have only one option in mating, and that's other heroin addicts. It's one of the worst addictions and rarely does someone 'recover' It is best to break off all communication. Hang up on him if he calls. If he wont stop, call the police. If you continue seeing him, he'll be in prison while you enjoy morning sickness. It is inevitable trouble for you. Heroin should be more than just a felony, it should be a conviction that results in execution.